Famous Last Words

Famous Last Words

“It can’t hurt just to go look!” That’s what my trainer told me. “We’re not going to buy this horse, we’re just going to take a look.” That’s what I (very earnestly) told my husband. “Oh, it’s never just looking!” That’s what all of you said to me after I brought my new filly home, just two months after I first laid eyes on her, the newly named Fürst Look OE (Fürst Impression x Movado’s Contessa/Lansing).

To be fair, I wasn’t looking, not really anyways. Many months into Beau’s rehab when it became clear that he wasn’t going to recover to the point of being my show horse again, my trainer and I talked about the possibility of a new horse once Beau fully retired. It felt overwhelming, beginning the search for a new partner when I was so attached to the one I’d just lost. And while I knew I didn’t have the funds to go out and buy a Third Level horse to pick up where Beau and I left off, I wasn’t prepared for what she told me. When I told her what my budget could be, she said that could get me an unbroke two year old.

So needless to say, I wasn’t brimming with excitement at the possibility. Frankly, I was scared. And also still consumed with my seven day-a-week hand walking routine. But after his re-injury and official retirement, it became clear that was my only option: find a new partner or let go of my dressage dreams. I looked vaguely online. I sent Lisa video links which were quickly whittled down to one or two maybes. I didn’t look very hard or very long. Most of my free time was dedicated to searching for retirement farms for my Beau. 

Then came my first stroke of luck. While horse shopping for a client at High Point Hanoverians in Maryland, she asked the breeder if they had any two year olds suitable for an ambitious amateur on a budget. They showed her a small, plain brown filly with a sun bleached forelock and big inquisitive eyes. Lisa snapped a picture and texted it to me saying, you should take a look at her! I admired the photo then filed this all away in the back of my mind while life hummed along. 

A few weeks later, another little nudge from fate. My husband got an unexpected day off after the 4th of July so we quickly planned an impromptu trip to DC. The information I’d filed away in the back of my mind, crept up to the front. DC… Maryland…. I wonder if we could stop and just take a look at that baby horse while we’re in the same state. Hmmm…. I pitched the idea to my husband by saying, “Oh hey, can we take a little detour and look at that horse? I know I’ll buy a new horse someday, and I really need to just get my feet wet with the horse shopping process. I want to be confident and ready when we do find the right horse.” I may have mentioned that the farm was “on the way.” He’s pretty easygoing and unbelievably supportive, so the short answer was “sure, why not?” 

The farm wasn’t what most people would classify as “on the way” and the little detour may have been more like 3 hours, but lucky for me he’s easily bribed with food and did I mention unbelievably supportive??  He picked a spot to eat oysters in downtown Annapolis and I set up a time to visit the horse I was definitely, absolutely not going to buy. I was determined not to fall in love. I barely told anyone we were planning to do this for fear of getting my hopes up. And after all, I was just looking. I repeat: I was NOT going to buy this horse!

That all changed in a few short minutes. We met her in the barn, where she calmly watched us with those big, captivating eyes. I held her while she was groomed and she batted those lovely long eyelashes at us, melting at least one of us. I told myself I wasn’t a sucker for a pretty face and internally maintained my “I’m not buying this horse” stance. We were there just to go through the motions, to ask the questions, take the video, get my feet wet, that was all. That changed once we got her to the arena. As soon as she started trotting she transformed from a small plain brown horse into something magical. It didn’t take more than 30 seconds of her floating over the ground for me to internally groan and say to myself, “Oh sh!t.” I was NOT supposed to fall in love with this horse. 

I told myself to play it cool, no one had to know I was losing my mind over how unexpectedly fabulous this horse was. I left it with a non-committal, “I’ll call you,” and we got started on the non-horsey portion of our weekend travels. We had a lovely afternoon in Annapolis and a memorable dinner in DC… the little horse was out of sight and out of mind. But the next morning, while my husband snoozed next to me, I was hard at work on my phone, pouring over spreadsheets, drafting budgets, and checking all of our bank accounts. I watched the videos a hundred times. And as soon as Art woke up, I said to him, “I can’t stop thinking about her.” The best horse husbands know that they don’t know the first thing about horses, so in his infinite wisdom, he said, “I think you need to talk to some people.” So I did. I sent the videos around and texted a friend about meeting her, saying, “When I watched her, the part of me that used to dream started to wake up again” Her reply? “Then you have your answer.” 

The third stroke of luck came a week later. The thing I’d really been searching for finally fell into place: I found the perfect retirement home for Beau. It felt like a sign. All systems pointed to go. I recalled the lessons I’d learned from all my years with my heart horse: if you really want something, go for it. My dreaming and scheming mode kicked into gear, and with a lot of help from a lot of people and several harrowing trips back and forth over the Chesapeake Bay Bridge, two months later I’d brought a feral two year old home.

So there you have it–the story of how I am now the proud owner of not one, but TWO horses I cannot ride! I am looking forward to all the adventures and surely the challenges to come and I am ever grateful that fate opened up another door for me and has given me a chance to keep chasing these dreams. It couldn’t have happened without the support and encouragement of my trainer, Lisa Hall, who I hope is ready to help me navigate baby horse land! I also need to thank Katey Simons for welcoming my hooligans into her perfect little farm, giving Beau the ideal environment for recovery and retirement and little Lucy a peaceful place to learn the ropes of being a real horse! I want to thank all of my friends for keeping my secret so we wouldn’t jinx it! And for the words of encouragement along the way–it was nice that you told me I wasn’t crazy, even though I’m not so sure myself! A special shout out to Emily Stumm, who willingly spent 13 hours in a truck with me for nothing but a bag of a Fritos and a hug. Thank you to Larissa Barilar of High Point Hanoverians for breeding such a fabulous horse! And last but not least is a thank you to my horse husband who has seen me through all the ups and downs of the last 10 months, and believes in me like no one else. Who knows where this wild ride takes me next, but I’m thanking my lucky stars for all the wonderful humans and horses who will be a part of that journey!   

#horsegirlenergy

#horsegirlenergy

I have to admit, I don’t always listen when my husband sends me links and says, “You have to read this.” But when he sent me a Vice article on a trending hashtag about “horse girl energy,” I was intrigued. I thought the internet had somehow discovered the secret stores of limitless energy that enable us horse girls to do the things we do and was celebrating us for it.

Horse girl energy is the superpower that allows us to effectively work with opinionated steel-shod prey animals ten times our size. It’s the thing that fuels us while we’re horse showing in 90 degree weather, surviving only on coffee and granola bars and probably sleeping in our trucks. It’s how we can clean 8 stalls while hungover faster than most people can make a bed. It’s why we can’t stay awake for an entire movie, but riding a couple of horses before or after a whole day at work is the normal routine. I thought for sure the article would be a witty outsider’s take on what *I* believe horse girl energy means.

It was not.

To my dismay, it was about what the internet really thinks of us: giant dorks.

We might not have been the “cool kids” in class…

Sure, the internet is not totally wrong. I might not be the only one whose horse girl energy led to some embarrassing fashion choices in the seventh grade. According to the article, horse girl energy is “sincerely doing or enjoying stuff that most people think is corny or uncool.” 

As I continued reading, the article sparked my “horse girl rage” and I rapid fire texted my unsuspecting husband what a load of bull$h!t this article was, what a travesty, how misrepresented all my fellow kick ass horse girls were, and how if that’s what the internet thinks of us, the internet is sorely mistaken. We’re outside braving the elements day in and day out. We’re doing all of the normal adulting crap that non-horse girls have to do AND we’re successfully caring for one (or maybe several) high-maintenance creature(s) on a daily basis. We’re working out so we stay fit enough to ride such creatures. And we’re constantly learning, gaining new knowledge and skills so we can train our beloved partners and work in harmony with them. What is so “uncool” about living a life with utter passion and devotion, do tell me, dear internet! 

The article then touches upon another undeniable truth–“her Facebook profile photo is, of course, her posing with her horse. Perhaps she is brushing it. More likely, she is hugging it.” I rolled my eyes, thinking, orrrrr…. she is executing a perfectly precise dressage movement, or is in mid-air over a solid obstacle, or flying around a barrel at high speed, or a hundred other also cool things. 

Perfect profile pic right here

As my contempt for this author bubbled, I reached the final paragraph–perplexing and satisfying–which stated, “Imagine if you acknowledged loving anything that sincerely? Horse girls have none of this inhibition, and this is why they’re almost certainly loads happier than the rest of us.” The rage subsided. The author is right about one thing… and yet, why WOULDN’T you live life earnestly and openly loving something that gives you joy? I guess I’ll never know because I am an unabashedly dorky horse girl and don’t mind if the world and the internet knows it. Call me a uncool if you want, internet, but I’ll be out prancing through fields of buttercups, grinning like a fool, unable to hear you for the wind in my ears. I may be weird, but I sure am happy.

Too much #horsegirlenergy for one pic
Thankful for the Crazy Horse Life

Thankful for the Crazy Horse Life

For the next five months or so you are going to hear me and the rest of us northern-dwelling equestrians complaining. A lot. Complaining about trudging around in fetlock-deep mud. Complaining about it being dark approximately 22 hours of every day. Complaining about the cold, the ice, the snow, the frozen water buckets and frozen tractors, frozen fingers and driving in the snow, the ice, and the rain-snow–you get the idea. 

But I as I mentally and emotionally prepare myself for the next several months of training in the dark and the mud and the cold and the ice…  it’s a good time to stop and remind myself how thankful I am for the privilege of being able to live the horse life. Despite my bitter hatred of winter, there are still small joys in every day that I am unbelievably grateful for. The horse life is not an easy one, but is a worthy one. I may have sat in traffic for two solid hours on the way to the barn last night, but my heart still smiles when I see that giant pink nose stretching through the stall window, looking for the snack he’s not going to get until after our ride. I may have spent the better part of a decade working on things any dressage horse should know by now (walk-trot transitions, anyone?) but I still end my lessons feeling encouraged that he’s getting better and stronger all the time. Any maybe I did have to chop his tail off because of the aforementioned mud, but I never forget to say a prayer of thanks to the patron saint of farriers each time I haul him in from the fields still wearing four shoes.

This Thanksgiving I wanted to make it a point to remind myself not to let the misery of winter dampen the glow of this beautiful, crazy, chaotic thing we call horse life. I wanted to really reflect on the good fortune I have to live my life surrounded by good people and their lovely horses. I am thankful that Optimum Equine has allowed me to spend even more time doing what I love and connecting with the things that matter to me. It continues to amuse me that it takes a Herculean effort to drag myself to the office every Monday morning, but a 6 am alarm on a Saturday finds me bounding out of bed and hustling off to a barn somewhere. Sometimes I look at my calendar and think to myself, how?? How in the world is all of this going to fit in, how I am going to survive another week of this insanity? The answer is that you can do amazing things when your heart is happy… I am grateful that my passion for the horses lead me in this direction and that I have the ability and opportunity to do what I do. 

I am thankful for my community of horse people that lift each other up–people who share equine first aid tips over cocktails at horse shows, who identify with your training struggles, and lift your spirits after an evil judge knocks them down. I am so fortunate to have people I can call my barn family. Over the past year, I can’t even count how many people have looked after my horse while he was hurt (or while I was hurt) and it blows me away. The connections we have and the bond we share because we live our lives as crazy horse people is one more blessing I am endlessly grateful for.  

But most of all, I am thankful for my horse. Day in and day out, I am humbled by what it means to have and to love a horse. From the simplest things, such as lifting up a hoof, to the complex (please canter sideways with bend and lightness and in a perfect rhythm), he does these things for one reason only: because I ask him to. 

That’s the only reason our horses let us ride them, train them, and work with them–because we ask that of them. The love and trust and sometimes pure magic that goes into day to day life with horses is something I find myself taking for granted. It becomes commonplace when it’s your day to day reality, but when I pause to consider all of the things my horse has done for me… from walking onto a trailer because I promise it will be safe, to trotting past the plastic bag that I promise will not eat him… I just want to grab his giant furry face and tell him thank you. Thank you for listening to me, thank you for trusting me, thank you for trying so hard. Thank you for giving me opportunity to chase dreams and live a rich, full, completely insane life. And with any luck, I will be thanking him for providing me with an arsenal of funny stories I can tell around the dinner table while trying to distract my family from politics… Happy Thanksgiving fellow crazy horse people! May you feel thankful as I do for the plentiful blessings of this life as you pull on your mud boots, headlamps, snorkels, three coats, or whatever gear you might need to go feed the horses today.